Chapter Three: How to Merit and Maintain Other’s Trust (Part 2) [ARR]
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Continuing on from last week, here are 5 more ways to Merit
and Maintain Other’s Trust in addition to these first five:
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Avoid Arguments
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Never Say, “You’re Wrong”
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Admit Faults Quickly and Emphatically
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Begin in a Friendly Way
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Access Affinity
Surrender the Credit. Careful though – this can’t be conducted
with false humility. “The principle suggested here is born not of
attention-seeking activity but rather of a supreme confidence that you are a
far better person when those around you know that they play an important role
not only in a collaborative success but also in your personal success. Success
isn’t about attention and accolades. It’s about partnership and progress.”
Engage with Empathy. “Empathy is not a networking tactic to be
learned and leveraged; it is a link to immediate affluence in human relations.”
Appeal to Noble Motives. “Such an approach does more than just
appeal to noble motives in another…it conveys the message, “You are capable of
doing the right, honorable, true, thing.”
These are powerful words that move people to action.”
Share Your Journey. “More and more common - and commonly
effective at building influential relationships - is the authentic intersection
of personal and professional life...When your journey is “our” journey, we are
both compelled to see where it goes.” This could be exemplified by bloggers who
pepper their blog posts with personal stories or anecdotes outside of their
traditional posts. This not only allows the reader to get to know the blogger,
but also become more invested in their lives.
Throw Down a Challenge. At Magic Johnson’s retirement ceremony,
he said, “I want to thank Larry Bird personally for bringing out the best in
Magic Johnson because, without you, I could have never risen to the top.” And
even if you don’t play in the NBA, “Look around your sphere of influence for an
area of affinity that can generate a competition that can mean something more
than reaching the finish line - something that can mean lasting friendships and
corporate influence for a positive change.”
Next week we will review how to lead change while minimizing
resistance, the final post for How to Win Friends and Influence People.
*Next book on the reading list is Getting to Yes by Roger Fisher and
William Ury!*
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